Monday, June 10, 2013

When my abuser is welcome at the table, I am not.

"Tolerance does not...do anything, embrace anyone, champion any issue.  It wipes the notes off the score of life and replaces them with one long bar of rest.  It does not attack error, it does not champion truth, it does not hate evil, it does not love good." -- Walter Farrell, "The Looking Glass"

When my abuser is welcome at the table, I am not.  Here's an article over at Patheos religion blog, about the limits or at least the difficulties of forgiveness.  The progressive Christianity she describes is more "beyondist" than Christian, IYAM.  Beyondism is the tactic some leftists have of proclaiming themselves to be "beyond" the categories of Right and Left.  The people she describes seem not to be great-hearted so much as they simply don't care, can't be bothered to make any value judgments.

But forgiveness and justice are not the same thing.  Pope John Paul the Great forgave his would-be assassin, but he didn't ask for him to be let out of prison.  Of course the primary benefit of forgiveness, if one doesn't wish to maintain or resume a relationship with the offender, is to end the gnawing away of one's own wellbeing.  But that choice must come of one's own free will--not just because that's what all the cool kids are doing.